Self Healer's
Have you've ever gone to someone when you're in a dark place or when you just want to vent or seeking righteous comfort and counsel from the tangible.
Subsequently, you’ experience the feeling’s of slighting, envy, jealousy or judgement…
You share what's going on. Maybe you cry or express some emotion. Suddenly, you can feel that person's apprehension.
They immediately start going into unsolicited advice, or biblical quotes! They offer you the bright side ("well at least x didn't happen!") or they begin with trepidation or dreadful aggressive behavior. Or rather begin to tell you what they would do or (did do). Instead of just being a shoulder to lean on, or a pillow to rest on in your weary time of need!
You can feel your frustration and pain building up even more, than before.
When in despair we don't want to be fixed. We want someone to just listen. To just be there.
To let us express.
Many of us grew up in anxious homes where there was no toleration for stress, anxiety, depression, weakness or vulnerability whatsoever.
We believe everything must
be fixed.
There must be a solution. We don't know how to actually just be there for someone. To just listen. To show compassion or empathy.
To provide a safe space.
To ask them how we can support them.
It's a loving act to be. To trust someone's capability to make sound decisions, garnered by pure love and a caring spirit or environment. To ask them what they need in that moment.
Have you experienced this?
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